The Female Superpower (2024)

I get complimented regularly by women on my sense of humor. My wife has been told repeatedly by women, even married women, that they find her husband hilarious. Which especially inspires confidence, because my wife's wires are crossed, and most of my humor falls absolutely flat with her.

I still, from time to time, think about a compliment I got 6 months ago when a lady told me I had "great swag" I don't even really know what she meant, but it it definitely made my week and then some.

Just yesterday a female at the car rental place I turned a car into told me my hair was absolutely gorgeous, looks like I've been sustained for another 6 months.

Reading this post's replies, I have to say GOD BLESS YOU, Vox, because with SSH explorations and explanations you are not just saving men from mistakes and pain and time wasted, you are also empowering women to learn and help be part of the solution to so many of the world's problems. 🕊

Corollary: Most men are desperate for affirmation. Women, if you have a guy and want to keep him, make sure YOU are a source of affirmation for him. If not, he could easily be stolen out from under you by a woman showing him just a little approval.

Apr 20

Female compliments are like grease from a car salesman, 9.9/10.

Apr 20

My wife recently asked what was up with everything I've bought these past years being blue.

I told her that she herself had complimented me, that it looks good on me.

She furrowed her brows, knowing I have a relatively bad memory, yet somehow remembered an offhand remark from over six years ago.

They really don't get it. She has never complimented my beard, but she has told me never to shave it. Women work in setting expectations, very rarely praise.

Ladies, look yourself in the mirror and with the song from Snap blasting sing it out, "I GOT THE POWER!"

New get rich scheme:

(1) Secretly hire a supermodel to compliment a 12-year-old boy.

(2) Buy shares in the company he starts the next day.

(3) Wait 20 years.

(4) Rake in profits now that he is a billionaire Alpha CEO.

Alternatively, enjoy the leather books he starts producing in his 50s. Win either way.

Apr 19

It is very motivating. Though I have it on good authority that top tier women shouldn’t bother brushing gamma cheeks. They’ll just ignore it. Especially if they’re in the zone.

You're right! Getting non-work related compliments from women are very rare.

I told a guy at the goodwill counter last week what a great radio voice he has. We're best buds now. If I weren't an honest person, I might never have to pay in that store again while he's there.

This is so true! I'm not one of those super-attractive women you're talking about. Not even mid, sadly. But I was Daddy's girl and I'm as comfortable with men as women. I throw compliments to both sexes liberally, because people need to hear about the good in them, and it's a harsh world. This has resulted in zero stalkers and zero inadvertent signals of interest, afaict. Just be tactfully kind to people. I do, like all women, have a gamma sensor on board, and those kinds don't get compliments. The ick factor is real.

That's interesting. It hasn't ever occurred to me to be afraid someone would think I was attracted to them or think I was flirting just by saying nice things.

Words of encouragement is one of the easiest ways to bless another person. Cool jacket, man! Dude, that's an epic beard. Nice ink...etc. There's always something nice you can say. I compliment ladies all the time too. And pet all the dogs. I'll befriend a rock. Does anyone remember per rocks? I had one. His name was Balboa. The 80s were awesome.

My hubby is subject to the usual barrage of affirmations. You can find all sorts of ways to love someone if you just put in the effort. You have to love on purpose.

Now I'm mad thinking about my son marrying some hateful harpy. Boo hiss.

Great post! This is like an arbitrage opportunity for women. Men are starved for compliments, women are reluctant to give them. Therefore it's easy (and free) for women to stand out and be liked.

Women's fear that compliments will be mistaken for romantic interest are, in my opinion, overblown. If compliments really led to more stalking behavior, then beautiful women would be the least likely to give compliments.

Every few years I read something on the internet that makes my day. This is one of those times. You’re right. I can remember the exact words used in every compliment I’ve ever received from a woman and just thinking about them made my day. Thank you.

Also, this is one of the best pieces of advice I’ve ever heard.

Most women get compliments multiple times a week. If a guy gets multiple compliments a year he’s definitely a little bit good looking. This is how big the disparity is.